[Peace-discuss] Obama gets another one right

[Jan & Durl Kruse]

  Marti Wilkinson wrote:
  "My daughter went to school with a boy who had two moms. I actually 
used to work for the same company with one of his mothers and she, 
along with her partner, have provided this kid with a stable loving 
home. Last I heard they are still together and the boy is now a 
teenager. Advances in technology have made it possible for gay and 
lesbian couples to bring biological children into a relationship. I 
think children are better off being raised in a loving environment."
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On Jan 24, 2009, at 2:51 PM, E. Wayne Johnson wrote:
>  One is amazed that this sort of sick stuff is going on so close by.
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Sounds like someone needs to meet some of my friends and loved ones and 
realize .... some of "this stuff going on so close by" are in reality 
loving families in our midst.  Some of these loving families are even 
on this list.  Please do not call my friends, family members and loved 
ones SICK.  If you have not meet these folks or know them you are being 
very "unloving" to call them SICK.  I think what may be SICK is being 
so unaware of who you are condemning!   Please become more 
informed..... read article below............ It is just one of many 
sources that might help the uninformed become better informed about the 
world in which we all live.  Let your preconceptions melt 
away..............
JAN Kruse

Same-Sex Parenting: Creating a Strong Family Life as a Gay Couple

Parenting by openly gay couples is still a new phenomena. Because 
society as a whole has yet to catch up with the trend, you may 
encounter suspicion or even hostility if you're parenting with a 
same-sex partner. You're in a unique position to show, through your own 
example, that gay parents can make good parents and that gay families 
can be happy families.

Perhaps you've wondered yourself whether you and your same-sex partner 
are depriving your child of an essential ingredient available only to 
children of "straight" parents. You can lay your mind to rest: all the 
research to date suggests that the children of gay parents are at no 
significant disadvantage. Key findings include the following:

     * Good parenting does not depend on sexual orientation; rather, it 
depends on a parent's ability to create a loving and nurturing home, 
something both gay and straight parents can do.
     * Home environments with gay parents are as effective in fostering 
a child's development as those with heterosexual parents; the children 
of gay parents grow up as happy, healthy and well-adjusted as the 
children of straight parents.
     * There is no evidence to suggest that children of gay parents are 
less intelligent, less popular or more likely to have problems than 
children of straight parents.
     * Children of gay parents are no more likely to become gay (or 
straight) than other children.

In a recent report reviewing the literature on gay parenting, the 
American Psychological Association observed that "not a single study 
has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantaged in any 
significant effect relative to children of heterosexual parents."

If you encounter suspicion or overt disapproval, avoid getting caught 
up in long-winded arguments. You stand a better chance of making your 
case by showing than by telling: it's only by seeing for themselves 
that most people change their views. If you give people the opportunity 
to see your family life in action, there's a good chance their 
preconceptions will melt away in time.

You may find Gay Parent Magazine (www.gayparentmag.com) to be a useful 
resource as you proceed in your journey as a gay parent.
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