[Peace-discuss] [OccupyCU] [sf-core] Another Guantánamo prisoner death highlights Democrats' hypocrisy
E. Wayne Johnson
ewj at pigsqq.org
Thu Sep 13 22:58:56 UTC 2012
A Google search for "pecker-waving debate" turned up zip.
This must be a very local term.
Even the Urban Dictionary doesnt seem to have anything on relative
this term other than what Mason Williams called "doodle dashing".
A long long time ago some folks used to say that there was great
intellectual freedom on the internet
because of the virtual reality context. Interesting to find people
saying that those who express themselves on the 'net
do so because they are "privileged".
"Silly" and "Childish" are not exactly words of unqualified praise.
I observe that females (every cell is female, you can't change that with
intellect or ignorance or pretentiousness)
often consider males to be Silly and Childish. It's part of their
maleness (every cell is male, has nothing to
do with the spindles or the distaff) to seem silly and childish at
times. Likewise the tendency of
the female to be "shrewish" and "bitchy".
Shall we deny biology?
Shakespeare's allegedly misogynistic play in the politically correct
version might be called
"The Shaming of the True"?
On 9/13/2012 2:20 PM, Ingbert Schmidt wrote:
> Rachel can correct me if I am wrong, but I believe she is talking
> about debates where one person has to be right, and the others wrong.
> Also known as pecker-waving debates. Or bar conversations.
>
> I'm personally more interested in constructive debate, where people
> present different points of view, try to understand the positives and
> the negatives of each, and come to a synthesis, which is not what I
> saw happening on these lists. I'm also more interested in debates that
> deal with things we can actually do something about. I hope that all
> of us plan to vote. I trust the people on this list to do their own
> research and come to their own conclusions. I have joined this list
> because I'm interested in changing aspects of society that I cannot
> change on my own. I did not join this list to change people's minds,
> and I do not see that as the purpose of this list.
>
> But I believe the implications of Ya'aqov's email are correct: I
> should show up to meetings if I want to claim ownership over any kind
> of action, or offer any critique, so I'm going to try and be done
> participating for now, and will revert back to lurking until I can
> start coming to meetings again. To clarify, I started participating at
> this moment motivated by feelings of solidarity, and because I don't
> like bullying. And yes, Wayne, you are bullying, by trying to goad her
> into a debate she has expressed interest in not having and by ignoring
> the actual intent and spirit of her statement. And yes, that's
> disrespectful.
>
> Ingbert
>
>
>
> On Thu, Sep 13, 2012 at 12:41 AM, "E. Wayne Johnson 朱稳森"
> <ewj at pigsqq.org <mailto:ewj at pigsqq.org>> wrote:
>
> Rachel,
>
> What is toxic about debate?
>
> Indeed it seems that you do indeed want people to shut up.
>
> Originally I just thought I would point out some natural
> tendencies that oft characterize the differences in gender,
> but it really seems that you actually do want to stifle debate.
>
> Wayne
>
>
>
> On 09/13/12 9:45, Rachel Storm wrote:
>> Ingbert, Scott, Sarah, Brook---
>>
>> Thank you for your words, your support. You're right. I don't
>> want people to shut up--I want people to talk to each other, and
>> frequently, but with the aim of reaching that deep meaningful,
>> vulnerable place--the one that makes you feel uncomfortable, but
>> stimulated. Ingbert, I hear you and I agree that checking each
>> other is an act of care that we do for people we love and want to
>> make community with---I want to organize here and so. My email
>> wasn't just directed towards those who are dominating
>> conversation, but all of us--myself included--to stay privy to
>> our privilege.
>>
>> You're right. I was angry. I am angry. I think it's good to be
>> angry and it isn't the critiques I've had trouble with. I think
>> what Carl and others offer are good topics of conversation, good
>> information. It's the way it's presented and the fast-forward
>> towards debate that I find toxic.
>>
>> Anyway, for what it's worth, thank you.
>>
>> RS
>>
>> On Wed, Sep 12, 2012 at 6:24 PM, Ingbert Schmidt
>> <ifloyd2 at gmail.com <mailto:ifloyd2 at gmail.com>> wrote:
>>
>> Thank you Scott!
>>
>> On a different vein, here's part of my perspective:
>>
>> Isn't Occupy supposed to be about us as individuals trying to
>> conceptualize the kind of society we *want* to live in, and
>> then work to try to create that society?
>>
>> My answer is yes.
>>
>> If so, then what are the qualities that we'd like to see
>> practiced in a better society?
>>
>> I have many thoughts on this, but certainly one of them is
>> people treating each other with respect.
>>
>> Have the discussions on this list been respectful?
>>
>> My answer is not really.
>>
>> Do we want people to feel comfortable posting what is
>> important to them?
>>
>> My answer is yes.
>>
>> Can repeated, aggressive posting be intimidating to people
>> and prevent them from feeling comfortable posting what is
>> important to them?
>>
>> Yes.
>>
>> Is, therefore, the repeated aggressive posting of your
>> particular positions with harsh critiques of anybody who
>> might disagree an act of silencing people?
>>
>> Yes.
>>
>> Is, therefore, a response that attacks people for pointing
>> out that a particular behavior is intimidating and silencing
>> by claiming that this observation is an attempt at repressing
>> the poster's ability to speak hypocritical?
>>
>> I would argue yes: If the poster isn't aware of how
>> suppressing their mode of communication is, then the fact
>> that they feel disrespected and silenced should make them
>> more aware of when other people feel disrespected and
>> silenced, and at the very least they should pay attention to
>> the content of what the other posters might say.
>>
>> Is the act of silencing people disrespectful?
>>
>> Yes.
>>
>> Rachel was not calling on anybody to shut up. Rachel was
>> annoyed by how some members of a group claiming to be
>> progressive was engaging in the very kinds of behaviors and
>> attitudes that reinforce some of the societal practices that
>> others in the group are trying to address through
>> participation in the group. So she called out this behavior.
>> And what she was asking is for the people who are a part of
>> the group to pay attention to all members of the group and
>> how their behaviors are affecting them. In my understanding,
>> this kind of activity constitutes respect.
>>
>> Rachel was annoyed when she wrote the email. It came across.
>> As it should have. When you or a group you are a part of is
>> being disrespected, I think it is perfectly fair to be
>> annoyed. Hell, I'd be angry.
>>
>> I send annoyed emails all too often as some people on this
>> list can attest. They often bother people. I have never been
>> called a bitch, a shrew, an ass-hole or any male variant on
>> this. Not once. Why? I suspect because I am a white male, and
>> my emotion is often treated as "man'splainin". I.e.,
>> acceptable to white males, and intimidating to some other people.
>>
>> I have been checked by people. I should probably be checked
>> more often. I try to check myself but I'm not very good at
>> it. I sometimes don't respond very well to being checked. But
>> I try. And the people who check me I feel are my friends.
>> Usually, my best friends. No matter how annoyed they might be
>> with me. Because I am by no means a perfect human being, and
>> I don't see myself very well, so they help me stay in line.
>> And put up with me despite the mistakes I often make.
>>
>> We can look at this "discussion" in any number of different
>> ways. Here's mine:
>>
>> I want to be part of an activist community where participants
>> fundamentally respect each other, and treat each other with
>> respect.
>>
>> I would like people to try to be respectful by paying
>> attention to their own actions as much as possible. I try to
>> do this myself. I don't always succeed.
>>
>> I don't always know when I or other people are being
>> disrespectful, so I assume that others may have this problem
>> as well.
>>
>> Therefore, I welcome it when people point it out to me when I
>> am being disrespectful, and I would like other people to
>> welcome this as well so that we can all learn how to be
>> respectful together. I have a lot to learn and can use all
>> the help I can get.
>>
>> I don't have any patience for somebody who asks for respect
>> but has no interest in giving it, or in trying to understand
>> why another person might feel disrespected.
>>
>> Part of being respectful is understanding why a mailing list
>> exists, why people participate, and being mindful of that in
>> their posts. It is good to discuss this purpose if there is
>> disagreement about it. It is not respectful to enforce your
>> own perspective on the list. Agreements should be arrived at,
>> preferably by the same consensus mechanisms adopted in
>> meetings of the group.
>>
>> But most importantly, we should be trying to practice our
>> conceptions of how society as a whole can be made better by
>> practicing the very things we would like to have changed in
>> society in the microcosms we are a part of, and the very
>> groups devoted to making those changes should be the *first*
>> place they are implemented. I don't believe in giving anybody
>> a pass for intentional disrespect, but here? No excuses,
>> period. Before we can be credible to others, we have to be
>> changing ourselves.
>>
>> So, to everybody on the list:
>>
>> I want to be respectful of others. Please help me be that way.
>>
>> Ingbert
>>
>>
>>
>> On Wed, Sep 12, 2012 at 7:08 PM, Scott Kimball
>> <scttkmbll at gmail.com <mailto:scttkmbll at gmail.com>> wrote:
>>
>> While I normally try to stay out of listserv battles, as
>> a white male I feel the responsibility to challenge other
>> white males when they are so blatantly perpetuating
>> patriarchy and/or white supremacy. In particular, I
>> cannot believe the comments directed at Rachel, one of
>> the hardest working organizers in our community. The two
>> responses to Rachel thus far are examples of how the
>> patriarchy permeates our society and this listserv.
>>
>> First Comment:
>>
>>> "There is nothing revolutionary about conversations
>>> here. I can listen to white men man'splain in
>>> desperate pissing contests virtually
>>> anywhere--that's what patriarchy continues to afford
>>> me."
>>> Rachel, do you think that an individual's views can
>>> be reduced and/or dismissed on account of their age,
>>> race, and/or gender?
>>>
>> This is example of how men feel entitled to choose the
>> parameters of "acceptable discussion". Whenever a woman
>> or person of color brings up issues of race or gender, a
>> reactionary white man responds with something like " What
>> does this have to do with race/gender? You're the one
>> bringing up race/gender, therefore you are the one who is
>> racist/sexist".
>>
>> It is not a matter of reducing one to their race, age,
>> gender, class, etc, its about acknowledging privilege and
>> how that affects one's orientation towards others. The
>> term "mansplaining" is used to describe the tendency of
>> men to feel entitled to "tell it like it is" to others.
>> In other words, men are somehow the subject matter
>> experts on /everything /and need to tell /you/ "how the
>> world really is" or "the truth" or whatever. The issue is
>> not the content one's statement; *it is the presumption
>> of authority*. This tendency is exacerbated by whiteness,
>> class privilege, and education level. I've met way too
>> many white dudes from upper middle class backgrounds and
>> graduate degrees who want to show everyone how smart and
>> knowledgeable they are.
>>
>> This is not to say, however, that one is bound to act in
>> such a way. It is a challenge to those with privilege to
>> reflect upon that privilege, on how it permeates their
>> life, and to think about how they, as privileged members
>> of society, can be an ally to oppressed communities.
>>
>> David, I am not trying to argue that you act in such a
>> way. However, your comment was a prompt for a response
>> and this group needs some discussion about white and male
>> privilege.
>>
>> Second comment:
>>
>> How does silly and childish compare with shrewish and
>> bitchy on the value scale?
>>
>>
>> This is such such a typical patriarchal response to a
>> woman speaking up that it would be comical if it were not
>> the case that this man actually lives in our community.
>> Whenever a woman speaks up and challenges the men, she
>> becomes "the bitch". It doesn't matter what she says.Her
>> words are not heard. Only the challenge to male authority
>> is heard. Compare this to when a man speaks out. When a
>> man speaks out, he is heard and his thoughts are
>> acknowledged to be worthy of discussion. Men can "reason"
>> together in groups. Women, however, are too emotional
>> and, perhaps, too intellectually inferior to be worthy of
>> discussion. And, again, if a woman brings up the claim
>> that men are being patriarchal or misogynistic, she is
>> berated for being divisive or deviating from the
>> important discussion (you know, the one the men are having).
>>
>> I find the discussions on this listserv to be very mean
>> spirited, and most importantly, disorganizing. This is
>> not the mode of discourse folks should use who want to
>> organize for economic and social justice. You cannot work
>> towards building a mass movement if you can't stop being
>> an asshole.
>>
>>
>> On Wed, Sep 12, 2012 at 5:38 PM, Sarah Lazare
>> <sarah.lazare at gmail.com <mailto:sarah.lazare at gmail.com>>
>> wrote:
>>
>> Rachel,
>>
>> We've very much appreciated your comments on this
>> thread. Thanks for your strong feminist voice and
>> leadership. We've often found that it's the moments
>> when we're trying the hardest and putting ourselves
>> out there the most that we face the greatest attack.
>> I hope everyone who's had the good luck to work with
>> Rachel can find your own way of showing her your love
>> and appreciation. Here's to building a culture of
>> liberatory, respectful debate and discussion within
>> our movements.
>>
>> In Solidarity,
>> Sarah Lazare and Brook Celeste
>>
>> On Wed, Sep 12, 2012 at 5:18 PM, Rickman, Aimee N
>> <arickman at illinois.edu
>> <mailto:arickman at illinois.edu>> wrote:
>>
>> Whoah.
>>
>>
>> **************Apologies for any random question
>> marks my system has weirdly added to this
>> email********************
>>
>> *From:* occupycu-bounces at lists.chambana.net
>> <mailto:occupycu-bounces at lists.chambana.net>
>> [occupycu-bounces at lists.chambana.net
>> <mailto:occupycu-bounces at lists.chambana.net>] on
>> behalf of E. Wayne Johnson [ewj at pigsqq.org
>> <mailto:ewj at pigsqq.org>]
>> *Sent:* Wednesday, September 12, 2012 3:58 PM
>> *To:* Rachel Storm
>> *Cc:* peace-discuss at anti-war.net
>> <mailto:peace-discuss at anti-war.net>; David Green;
>> occupycu at lists.chambana.net
>> <mailto:occupycu at lists.chambana.net>
>> *Subject:* Re: [OccupyCU] [Peace-discuss]
>> [sf-core] Another Guantánamo prisoner death
>> highlights Democrats' hypocrisy
>>
>> How does silly and childish compare with shrewish
>> and bitchy on the value scale?
>>
>>
>> On 9/13/2012 3:08 AM, Rachel Storm wrote:
>>> David,
>>>
>>> I sent this email to Occupy, not Peace Discuss
>>> and your question illustrates precisely what I
>>> seek to illuminate. Listservs are designed for
>>> the people on them. Not others and the
>>> assumption isn't that they will be forwarded
>>> willy nilly to folks off of the list. I expect
>>> that from people typically, but not from people
>>> I am trying to build movements with--we can do
>>> better. I'm not going to engage with you, when
>>> you seek no understanding and only want to
>>> ignite debate. It's silly and childish.
>>>
>>> Rachel
>>>
>>> On Wed, Sep 12, 2012 at 1:46 PM, David Green
>>> <davegreen84 at yahoo.com
>>> <mailto:davegreen84 at yahoo.com>> wrote:
>>>
>>> "There is nothing revolutionary about
>>> conversations here. I can listen to white
>>> men man'splain in desperate pissing contests
>>> virtually anywhere--that's what patriarchy
>>> continues to afford me."
>>> Rachel, do you think that an individual's
>>> views can be reduced and/or dismissed on
>>> account of their age, race, and/or gender?
>>> David Green
>>>
>>> *From:* C. G. Estabrook
>>> <carl at newsfromneptune.com
>>> <mailto:carl at newsfromneptune.com>>
>>> *To:* Rachel Storm <rachelstrm at gmail.com
>>> <mailto:rachelstrm at gmail.com>>
>>> *Cc:* peace-discuss at anti-war.net
>>> <mailto:peace-discuss at anti-war.net>;
>>> "occupycu at lists.chambana.net
>>> <mailto:occupycu at lists.chambana.net>"
>>> <occupyCU at lists.chambana.net
>>> <mailto:occupyCU at lists.chambana.net>>
>>> *Sent:* Wednesday, September 12, 2012
>>> 8:24 AM
>>> *Subject:* Re: [Peace-discuss]
>>> [OccupyCU] [sf-core] Another Guantánamo
>>> prisoner death highlights Democrats'
>>> hypocrisy
>>>
>>> I thought the local Occupy group
>>> supported the efforts of AWARE against
>>> US war and racism abroad - even to
>>> participating in our demonstrations.
>>>
>>> That's why I posted to the "OccupyCU"
>>> list information about the ongoing
>>> scandal of Guantanamo, which is scanted
>>> in the corporate media (as is Manning's
>>> persecution, etc.).
>>>
>>> --CGE
>>>
>>> On Sep 12, 2012, at 12:16 AM, Rachel
>>> Storm <rachelstrm at gmail.com
>>> <mailto:rachelstrm at gmail.com>> wrote:
>>>
>>> > I must share this...
>>> >
>>> > I've been both terribly bored and
>>> fairly annoyed at how this Occupy
>>> listserv is being used. I am someone
>>> that cannot regularly attend Occupy
>>> meetings and for me, it's important to
>>> be able to stay connected, but what is
>>> Occupy here--in this communication
>>> space? What is worth occupying? There is
>>> nothing revolutionary about
>>> conversations here. I can listen to
>>> white men man'splain in desperate
>>> pissing contests virtually
>>> anywhere--that's what patriarchy
>>> continues to afford me. I'm tired of
>>> having to ask men in the movement to
>>> check their privilege. It shouldn't have
>>> to be asked-- I hear men in the movement
>>> say they want revolution, but I don't
>>> see willingness to do the work. We are
>>> failing to model what we seek. We need
>>> more imagination than this. We can do
>>> better.
>>> >
>>> > • We can value dialogue over
>>> debate. Modeling that we're a community
>>> of people seeking understanding, rather
>>> than trying to get their word in
>>> edgewise. Those with privilege in the
>>> movement (men, white folks, etc.) can
>>> step back, make space, talk less/listen
>>> more. This isn't hard to do and makes a
>>> world of difference. (Just count the
>>> number of women, people of color, etc.
>>> actively engaged on these C-U activist
>>> lists or being listened to at meetings
>>> and you'll see how deep this problem is.)
>>> > • We can "check each other" in an
>>> act of care. Knowing that we're not
>>> perfect, but we're trying and we have a
>>> responsibility to help one another grow
>>> where possible. We can tell those who
>>> are dominating conversation to step
>>> back, to ask for clarification, and to
>>> listen.
>>> > • We can reject "occupation" as
>>> our language in solidarity with native
>>> peoples all over North America. We can
>>> privilege people of color and women's
>>> voices--knowing these voices ought to
>>> drive the movement that seeks
>>> decolonization and an end to
>>> marginalization.
>>> > • We can spend more time imagining
>>> what we want, alternatives, and raging
>>> where it matters!
>>> >
>>> >
>>> > In the past month alone, I've
>>> witnessed a silencing conversation
>>> around the rape allegations facing
>>> Assange that signals to me--as a
>>> woman--that the same men that say they
>>> care about women in the movement are no
>>> where to be found when it comes time to
>>> stand up against violence against women.
>>> I've been to meetings where women's
>>> voices were rarely heard--and I know my
>>> sisters had plenty to say!
>>> > I am reminded of Adrienne Rich who
>>> cautioned a white-led feminist movement,
>>> "Without addressing the whiteness of
>>> white feminism, our movement will turn
>>> in on itself and collapse."
>>> >
>>> > There are other voices we need in this
>>> space. This local organizing will not
>>> last unless we turn our attention to
>>> these matters.
>>> >
>>> >
>>> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_s3X0uW9Ec&feature=player_embedded
>>> <http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r_s3X0uW9Ec&feature=player_embedded>
>>> >
>>> > love and rage,
>>> >
>>> > RS
>>>
>>>
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>> American Federation of Teachers
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>>
>> "Dream in a pragmatic way."
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> "Dream in a pragmatic way."
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